what kind of grip?

I came across this proverb a while back:- “let go or be dragged!”

It is so appropriate in more ways than one. I need the reminder, so I share it…. As a partner, a parent, as a leader, as a friend, as someone healing from woundedness, one of the greatest gifts we can learn is the art of “letting go”.

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up.  It doesn’t mean not caring.  It doesn’t mean not being engaged or connected……but it does mean taking our grip off of things so tightly.

It means learning how to be less co-dependent. It invites us to trust God is at work in ways we can’t see. It means knowing and responding to our limitations. It necessitates us to be more fully human.  It means being very aware of how much power we give to things in the past or the present that we have absolutely no control of.

When I reflect on places of wounding past, “let go or be dragged” comes to mind.  When I was hanging on so tightly to the past, I was the one suffering. I was the one experiencing self-increased misery.  We take things more personally than we should.  We can’t stand it when people disapprove or disagree. We’re truly not as strong as we think we are. In the back part of last year God keep on squeezing this truth into my heart – to just let go……  A white-knuckle grip of life is not effective and is the very antithesis of the life God wants for us.

Don’t get dragged all around the place…….  Just as Corrie Ten Boom said, ‎”Hold everything in your hands lightly, otherwise it hurts when God pries your fingers open.”

What about you? What do you need to let go of this year? What will you let-go of today?

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